I consider myself to be very spiritual, generous and open-hearted and recently met a wonderful man at a yoga class. We share many common qualities and have already had several deep conversations during which we finish the other's sentences. We really like spending time with a glass of wine, independent films, a game of Scrabble or chess. So, why am I worried? On the other hand, both of us have a hard time making decisions and are very creative, but between jobs right now.
Becca, I can see myself growing old with this man, but wonder whether I should invest time, energy and my heart into moving forward with this relationship, including having sex (which he is gently pressuring me to do). Although he is newly divorced from a long marriage, I have not had an intimate partner for six years and am very apprehensive about giving my body (and soul) to another.
Dear Worried in Washington,
You seem to be in the honeymoon phase of a new relationship without the physical consummation, yet I feel that both you and he may have a combination of lower chakra issues such as grounding, survival, self esteem and sexual expression. Although this may not be the answer you want to hear, I suspect that as a couple you may have problems maintaining a physically intimate relationship over the long term because the inertia of the imbalances in your lower chakras will be very difficult to overcome without much effort, persistence and patience. If being platonic partners does not work for you and I do think you could be perfect for one another in that case, you may delve into these chakra issues much more deeply by reading, studying and attending a chakra balancing workshop as a couple. Thanks so much for your question, please write and keep me updated on your progress.