Dear Becca,
My friend and I just got back from a day-long chakra workshop and I was too embarrassed to discuss this with her…The pendulum showed that her sacral chakra as “open” while mine almost started a tornado whirling in the “closed” direction. We aren’t keeping score (okay, maybe I am) but she has more boy friends than Cleopatra while I am lucky to get a date to church and might as well be celibate. I think that most people consider me attractive and I like what I see in the mirror. So could potential partners be sensing my energetic lack of availability and shying away?
Lusting in Lincoln

Dear Lincoln,
As we know, all of our seven chakras are interwoven and dependent on one another for healthy functioning, yet a closed second chakra can lead to a lack of intimate partners and as put by Dr. Anodea Judith, “sexuality is the water wheel of life that moves the earth below and tempers the fire above.” When couples are face to face, their chakras are aligned between them and as sexual excitement increases, their energetic vibrations are enhanced and woven together at the physical, mental and heart chakra levels as their experience leads them. It’s the old story of the rich getting richer, not only is your friend attracting more partners by having an open sacral chakra but she is amplifying her energy when engaging with them and thus attracting even more.

So, I would like to see you create change in your world by becoming conscious of any ways that you may be restricting the expression of your emotions and to work toward releasing them. For instance, do you find yourself literally or figuratively biting your tongue with friends, family and co-workers because you are yearning for their approval, embarrassed by your emotions in reaction to your own or other’s actions, or angry that others are not hearing you or caring about your feelings? My friends at The Center for Nonviolent Communication suggest that when we are upset that we realize what our unmet needs are, and work to resolve them without blaming others or even ourselves for not doing so.

For most people, including me, this is much harder to accomplish that it is to consider, but the journey is worth it, because expressed desires create movement (change), causing our life forces to flow like water to other beings around us (even men).
Namaste,
Becca